Three Names

According to the Sages, we each have three names: 

The name we were given at birth,

               The name we earn by our own deeds (explained to mean the name we give ourselves)

     and

The name that others give us (the name we deserve).

Should the last two be similar or congruent?  What role should they play?  Clearly the Sages think we should concerned about them. 

Which do you focus on more?  What would you like it to be?  And is it similar to the other?